It is common in western culture to degrade parenting. We degrade parenting because we hate children. We live in a time when people are having less children and are looking for every excuse to justify it. Nothing stands as a greater condemnation than the 60 million or so children who have been murdered through the legalization of abortion.
Consider for a second how insidious the abortion fallacy has worked it’s way down stream: “That’s not a baby in the womb, it is just a clump of cells.” Some how that clump becomes a “person” when it is born, yet we all know how weak that is. Either it is clump of cells all the way through or it is a person all the way through. We know we can’t have it both ways. The catastrophe is that our culture has decided that we are basically clumps of cells, whether we are in the womb or not. We just separate the clumps of cells who have rights from the ones that don’t. Some clumps of cells are more equal than others.
The Importance of Civilizing the Uncivilized
With such an attitude, how can one not despise parenting. Children are dependents. They require constant care and concern. They grow in autonomy very very slowly and for most of their develop they will despise or ignore that vast lengthens of compassion, patience, and love that will be given them by their parents. They are not born with gratitude, patience, or obedience. Those things must be taught, and taught through their despising of the lesson. On top of all of this, they are fallen sons and daughters of Adam. They are hard-hearted. They are god-haters who hate authority and desire to rebel against it, just their father Adam. Parenting is an all consuming occupation of civilizing the barbarian. And there was once a day when this was consider a good and noble calling. It is no longer.
For if we are all just clumps of cells, and all we have in this life is this life, then why should I spend it on anyone else? See how deep the lie goes? We don’t just believe that children are clumps of cells in the womb, but they are also clumps of the cells out of it. So what is the point? This clump of cells wants to be free to live my best life now. Children don’t fit there.
The Me Generations
We can’t blame all of this on the millennials. Yes, we call them the “Me” generation but all of us are born into this world wanting to be part of the “Me” generation. We are selfish and proud. We have our hopes and dreams. We don’t want anything to get in the way of accomplishing those goals. Children get in the way. Why? Because raising children has never been a side job. It takes everything you’ve got and more. It will not take a back seat to your career or your “free lifestyle.” God made it to be front and center because children matter. The lie we have bought, which comes from pit of Hell, is that there are more important things to be doing than raising children. Career. Making money. Toys and Stuff. A promiscuous partying lifestyle. “Me-time.” You cannot be both committed to your own selfish lifestyle and be sacrificing for your children. Parenting requires the biblical love of self-sacrifice. So, since we can’t have both we chose the former. We kill our kids. We hate our kids. We wish they would go away.
The Blessing of Children
One of my favorite psalms is Psalm 127:
Psalm 127:1–5 (ESV): Unless the Lord builds the house,
those who build it labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
the watchman stays awake in vain.
2 It is in vain that you rise up early
and go late to rest,
eating the bread of anxious toil;
for he gives to his beloved sleep.
3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
are the children of one’s youth.
5 Blessed is the man
who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
Here the Scriptures liken children to arrows that parents, once they are fully straightened and sharp, shoot out into the world. The parents, by the grace of God, who shoots straight arrows reap the blessing and reward. Those arrows can change the world. For they then shoot arrows of their own. Entire civilizations can come from faithful parents. God blesses those parents who sacrifice to straighten their arrows. If you think about the fall of Rome to Christianity, much of it was to the conversations of heathens, but also much of it was faithful Christian parents raising godly children whose in turn, raised godly children.
No only that, but I need my children. I am a deeply selfish, proud, and self-centered person. Parenting civilizes me. God uses it to reveal to me that I am in desperate need of Him. I am not able or equipped to parent as I should. I am a sinner who constantly wants my own way. Yet, the beauty of parenting is when I lay down my life for Christ in it, I find my life. I grow more in love for my children because I sacrifice for them. The more I do this more I grow in appreciation and gratitude for Christ who died for me. Yes, I have frustrating days. Yes, it is a battle at times. But I have never done anything more rewarding in my life. I wouldn’t change it for all the free time money could buy. My deepest desire is that my children grow up to have godly children of their own.
The Suicide of Our Culture
It is true that we reap what we sow, and if we do the opposite and despise and hate our children it is to our destruction. The land of Canaan was fully of those people who sacrificed their children. They would throw them into fire and boiling cauldrons. In fact, God’s test of Abraham in telling him to sacrifice Isaac was to show Abraham that Yahweh was nothing like the idols of the land.
God’s wrath was poured out on such nations. Israel adopted the same practices and they too were judged by God through Assyria and Babylon. Are we not more destructive and vile then they? We systematically slaughter our kids by the millions and call it true freedom. Only just recently the leader of the “Shout your Abortion” campaign tried to brainwash children that abortion was a good thing. You can view it here.
She replies to one of the them with this justification: “I feel like if I am forced to create life, I have lost the right to my own life.”
That is my point in a nutshell. We would rather be selfish then learn how to be selfless. A culture that hates children is a culture that commits suicide. We do so in two ways:
One, we forfeit the blessing of children. That is the the blessing of how children make us better and how children bless a civilization. Having less children because we want to be selfish now, produces a more ungrateful society and further degrades the culture in the future. When our arrows are crooked so two becomes our culture. Two, we incur God’s curse and not his blessing. His wrath is hot against those who destroy his image bearers and despise the family. Not long will a civilization endure which hates its children.
May God’s grace and mercy turn our proud and selfish hearts back to the glory and honor of raising children.
More to come later.